Times change, people change, 20 years is a long time.
Some compromises had to be made. He was going to the US, she had her sights on Beijing. He didn’t like it that she had other men other than him, she didn’t like his tone.
It didn’t help that he dismissed her career, nor did it help that she thought he was being condescending.
Here were the compromises and sacrifices they weren’t willing to make. Unrealistic?